Going through a divorce can be a very stressful and challenging process. Both people in a couple may act in irrational ways because emotions sometimes take over. Things can get pretty messy fairly quickly when two people disagree on how the assets may be divided up or how child custody may be decided. It can often take a good amount of time to resolve these matters, especially if there is a lot of conflict. This may end up costing you more money in the long run.

A lot of people look at divorce as a failure. Your marriage didn’t work out. You failed. However, this is a very limited view of divorce. Just because you may be going your separate ways does not negate the time that you spent together. Instead, it’s better to look at a marriage as a learning experience. You learned what you needed to learn from each other, and you grew as people. Oftentimes, a couple needs to separate in order to continue growing as people. There’s nothing wrong with admitting that and accepting it.

Often, the source of conflict in a divorce comes from blaming the other person, resisting the actual divorce, or feelings of hurt, anger, or betrayal. If you can step back from those feelings, though, you may be able to see objectively that a divorce is the wisest course of action for everyone involved. When you have a divorce mediator, he or she may be able to help you to see this. Sometimes it takes an outside, objective person to help you to come to this realization.

When two people can come to terms with each other about a divorce, it can help them to come to an agreement in a more efficient way. Divorce is no longer the stressful experience you thought it would be. When you work together with a divorce mediator, you will find that you may agree to part ways peacefully. The mediator will remain impartial and help you to settle the terms of your divorce. Fortunately, many divorce attorneys also act as divorce mediators.

If a divorce mediator is used, both parties can acknowledge their emotions without delaying the legal process of the divorce. This may be the most peaceful way for both parties to survive the divorce process, which will be helpful for everyone involved.

Sara Crawford is a writer from Atlanta, Georgia. With a BA in English and an MFA in Creative Writing, she has recently been blogging for Hait, Eichelzer & Kuhn, a law firm in Georgia.  http://www.he-law.com/blog.php